Often times, in the forums, the ladies(myself included) can get frustrated with women who are upset that they are not pregnant after a few months. One of us ladies always post “It can take up to 12 months for perfectly healthy couples, with no fertility issues, to conceive.” And that is completely correct.
This morning I read a post and my heart broke. I remembered being three months into this process and feeling doomed. Like everyone could get pregnant but me. I remember seeing so many babies at church on Sunday, I felt like crying. Three month into this mess.
And what I realized is, besides these past 7 months, the first four or five were absolutely miserable. When you start trying, you think it’s going to happen instantly. That’s what we’re taught. Unprotected sex = pregnancy. So when month two, or three, or four come, you think something is wrong.
It took me that long to educate myself enough on the process of getting pregnant.
But I can vividly remember being in that moment and thinking something was wrong. (Turns out I was right, but im the exception not the rule.)