Cry it out update

this is day four of cry it out. The first nap we cried it our for he cried for 57 minutes, then I got him up. It’s difficult BC we aren’t shutting down our life completely, BC that isn’t feasible for us, and I do want to have Calvin be a bit flexible. Yesterday he took tula or car naps as we had to be out all day. We currently let him fuss/cry for thirty minutes the most. We kind of use our judgment here. Sometimes after ten or so, we can tell he’s trying to fall asleep but can’t BC he doesn’t have a pack, so we’ll go in and pop a paci in. He usually goes to sleep after that. The longest we go is 30 minutes, after that we go and paci him no matter what.

its tricky BC Calvin can out a paci in his mouth, but he can find them in the crib(and I’ve put about six in there.) occasionally he’ll happen upon one, and get it in, but it isn’t frequent enough that we can depend on it.

Bedtime he fussed maybe 10 minutes. First morning nap, has been anywhere from 3-15(after the first day) the other sometimes take 20-30 minutes.

his naps are still max 45 minutes, a d I wanted to ask some mommies out there, how long do your babies sleep at night? Calvin will sleep from 7-7, and I’m troubleshooting the short nap, and pretty much the only thing I can come up with is he’s getting too much night time sleep. Maybe he should only BC getting 10 hours? In which case, Joseph and I need to decide what is important to us, having adult time in the evening? Or breaks throughout the day.

currently our schedule is

7(ish, sometimes is 645) wake up and eat

745(ish sometimes 815) down for first nap.

9ish up from nap

10 ish eat

1130-1230 second nap

1ish eat

230 third nap



620 bath

645ish eat

7 down for bed



1 thought on “Cry it out update

  1. Ohh, the 30-45 minute nap!!! I hate it so much and yet we struggled with it for what seems like forever. We have always been lucky to have great sleep at night with our twins – and I have to say that it was the most important thing for me. I was not willing to do anything to jeopardize that. There are so many different recommendations on sleep amount and schedules. And it seems to me, that you are doing a great job. If Calvin sleeps 12 hours at night, I think it is safe to assume that he needs 12 hours at night.

    About a month ago, I became obsessed with trying to figure out how to get my twins to take longer naps because I would never get a break during the day because they would nap at different times, taking only short naps. They are 8 1/2 months now. I read the “90 minute sleep solution” book by Polly Moore and it changed everything. Not sure if it was just babies getting older that changed everything but shortly after implementing some of the tricks in the book, we started getting longer naps. Short version: Babies have a 90 minutes internal clock and after 90 minutes of awake time (or increments of 90 minutes, so 3hrs as well), a new sleep cycle begins and baby is ready for sleep. Watching my babies, I begin to see tired signs and fussiness about 5-10 minutes prior to the end of the 90 minutes and know that it is time for a nap (or a bit of quiet time). Now my babies are older than yours and we have just transitioned over to mostly having just 2 naps. But keeping them awake longer stretches is what helped us. I now keep them awake for 3 hours in the morning.

    My suggestion would be to lengthen his awake time in the morning to about 90 minutes. And the same throughout the day. But be aware that if he is awake in crib prior to you picking him up, the clock has already started. My babies generally lay in their crib chatting for 30 minutes before i “wake” them up. I don’t know if you have a set routine prior to nap, but I think that helped us too. Don’t make life complicated for yourself and do something elaborate. It could be a song or a story. I do a short story that I memorized and just gently whisper it in their ear while holding them. It takes 45 secs and it lets them know what is coming.

    Anyway, that was really long…sorry! I just know how frustrating it can be and I hope you figure it out. Just remember, every baby is different and you guys will figure out what works for you (that is really evident when you have twins. My girl sometimes need 3 naps and my boy only needs 2). Many of the recommendations that I read about sleep says that 10-12 hours of night sleep is normal and that 3-4 hours of naptime for baby under 6 months 2-3 hours for 6-9 month is normal.

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