I’m 23 weeks, and feeling pretty awesome. Calvin hates me sleeping on my stomach, or resting my laptop on my stomach, but other than that, I couldn’t be happier. As far as weight, I vary so much. Some days I’m prepregnancy, some days I’m +5. It swings big time. So who really knows.
My bleeding is about a medium period flow for me. I have my followup with my MFM on Thursday morning, and then an appt with my regular ob on Friday around lunch. Then we have our first shower on Saturday. It’s a couples showers with our current small group, and our old small group. So it should be a lot of fun.
In other news, I’m going be an aunt again…maybe.
Here me out, I know I am super knocked up, and that some women aren’t, but I just don’t think I will ever get over the “I worked my butt off, paid thousands of dollars to specialist, and put myself through all sorts of drugs and hormones to get Calvin” bitterness. I know, maybe I don’t have the right to do that, but the bottom line is, we have unexplained infertility. Our next baby, could never happen. Does that make sense? While I am so overwhelmingly grateful for Calvin, I kind of feel like I “earned”, and it makes me mad when other people just happen upon it. I know, I shouldn’t feel that way, but I do.
Anywho, my brother met a girl online who live in Cambodia. He went there to meet her in July and stayed for 3 weeks got engaged to her, whatever do what you do.. So this morning, I get a text saying he “has big news, and I need to be over there by 10am.” I was asleep, so I didn’t make it. He said he’d text me afterwards, but I already knew. She’s knocked up. Turns out I was right.
But here’s the kicker. In Cambodia, if her village found out she was dating just dating people wouldn’t send their children to her parents for school. The whole time my brother was there, she was trying to hide what she was doing, because she would be ostracized if people knew. So now, she’s just going to be unwed and flaunt a bump and think things are ok? Doesn’t seem to make sense to me. The old plan was for my brother to go over there next summer, do the Cambodian wedding thing(not legal here in the US, but would be ok for her family) then the next summer 2016, she would come over here and they’d get hitched. Its really complicated and expensive to get her over here. And my brother is going back to school to finish his degree, and it’ll take him those two years. But now, he’s going to have a Cambodian baby in May?
I keep questioning or maybeing because its kinda like seriously? And I don’t mean like I’m in disbelief. I mean there are reasons I’m finding it HARD to believe. First of all, his last week there, she was on her period(which was two weeks ago.) Second of all, they both understand, I believe, that part of her goal is to get here, to the US, now they may be in love and blah blah blah, whateve,r to each their own, but if she is pregnant with my niece/nephew, you better believe we(as a family) are going to be pressuring brother and working our butt’s off to get her here sooner than summer 2016. Ideally it would be before she gives birth.
Maybe I’m being a cynic. Maybe I’m being bitter. But I brought this up to my brother before he went, because she kept saying things like “where’s my ring?” and stuff. So I told him, it sounds like she’s got her own timeline, and it might not be aligned with yours.
Also, who does that? Apparently both my brothers. They meet a chick, bone and chick, and impregnate a chick. With no thought to what it really means. Joseph said “do you think they had unprotected sex?” and I said “Absolutely” and he just couldn’t believe it. Who does that? I know families are started all sorts of ways, but I’m being judgey.